Recovery is a process of change through which individuals learn to live a healthy life without substances. It involves more than just stopping the use of a substance. It is an ongoing process that evolves through stages from a period of acceptance and acknowledgment of the disease to stable recovery. We, as parents, think about how we can support our loved one in his/her long-term recovery.
Relapse is the rule rather than the exception. We try to see relapse not as a failure, but as part of a process and an opportunity for our loved one to use the skills and tools he has learned during treatment to get back on track. Relapse is most common within 90 days after treatment, but it can occur anytime. Relapse rates for addictive diseases are similar to relapse rates for other chronic diseases. Just as people with chronic diseases must adjust their lifestyles and assume responsibility for managing their own care, so our addicted loved ones need to do the same.
The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) has defined “Recovery from Mental Disorders and/or Substance Use Disorders” as involving four major dimensions: Health; Home; Purpose; Community.
Guiding principles of recovery include (from SAMHSA):
- Recovery emerges from hope
- Recovery is person-driven
- Recovery occurs via many pathways
- Recovery is holistic
- Recovery is supported by peers and allies
- Recovery is supported through relationship and social networks
- Recovery is culturally-based and influenced
- Recovery is supported by addressing trauma
- Recovery involves individual, family and community strengths and responsibility
- Recovery is based on respect
Horizon High School
Horizon High School is a school for teens in recovery. The curriculum includes daily group meetings with an AODA counselor. Students must be drug-free/sober for 30 days prior to admission, be engaged in outside treatment/counseling and WANT to attend. Horizon High School was organized by concerned parents, educators and AODA counselors. It opened in January 2005. Its mission is to provide a school that fosters emotional, social and academic growth for students who want to learn in an alcohol-free, drug-free environment. Students will actively assume responsibility in creating their own safe and nourishing community. Contact Director Traci Goll at 608 335-0387; Website: www.horizonhs.org
Narcotics Anonymous. The NA Program is a nonprofit fellowship or society of recovering addicts who meet regularly to help each other stay clean. For local listing of meetings and services, see Badgerland NA
Alcoholics Anonymous. The Madison Area Intergroup Central Office helps all the AA Groups in the South Central Wisconsin area. See its website for the listing of meetings and services.
Besides mixed meetings, NA and AA have separate meetings for Young People; Women; Men; Gay/Lesbian; Spanish-speaking. There are OPEN meetings (for addicts/alcoholics and non-addicts/alcoholics) as well as CLOSED meetings (just for addicts/alcoholics). Each group also hosts SPEAKER meetings when a person relates his/her story. Many parents find it helpful to attend OPEN meetings and SPEAKER meetings to better understand our loved ones and their recovery journey.
SMART Recovery. SMART Recovery is an addiction recovery support group of tools and techniques based on 4 points that advocates for choice and empowerment for any addiction. There are several meeting times and places in Madison.
Treatment Providers. Many of the treatment services listed in the Dane County DrugTreatment Directory (pdf) provide counseling and on-going recovery support for those with a drug use disorder as part of a sustained treatment plan. Many also include family programs and recovery support for the family because research indicates that successful outcomes of treatment depend on the entire family’s involvement. Connections Counseling, for example, provides a Family Therapy Program for parents.
Recovery support for young people.
There are a number of Young People’s A.A.and N.A. Meetings: Check the meeting list at Badgerland NA and the Alcoholics Anonymous Meeting list.
A few of the offerings include (always check meeting lists for current meeting times):
Monday – “Young Addicts for Young Addicts” 5:30 pm St. John’s Lutheran Church, 322 East Washington
Tuesday – 8 PM. Young People’s; 511 N. Carroll Street
Thursday – 8 PM Young People’s; Fitchburg Serenity Club; 6048 McKee Road
Saturday – 6:30 PM; Young People’s AA; Monona Serenity Club; 4933 Prairie Dock Drive
A young people’s AA committee has been formed in Madison called WICYPAA. It hosts a number of events and is active in the recovery community. Check out their website for information about the committee and upcoming events.
Connections Counseling offers a daily “Sober Event.” The Sober Events schedule is posted each Wednesday afternoon throughout the clinic and online at http://connectionscounseling.com/sober-events. Please note that these sober events are not sponsored nor facilitated by Connections Counseling. The schedule is created by volunteers in recovery and are not affiliated with any group or organization. Anyone may attend these events provided that they are not under the influence of any drugs or alcohol while attending. Simply RSVP to the host to indicate attendance and/or to ask questions.
Connections Counseling, also, currently facilitates a “Mentor Program” (previous or current clients who currently have 90+ days of absolute sobriety and wish to give back to others). Primary clients are able to work with/meet with a clinic Mentor (inside and outside of the clinic setting) to obtain additional support throughout his/her recovery program and course of treatment.
Aaron’s House holds events and fellowship for young adults. See their website and their Facebook page.
Horizon High School hosts a variety of sober events and opportunities to connect and socialize with other teens in recovery.
Some local high schools, including Memorial High School, hold sober-free dances and events.
There is also Young People in Recovery (YPR). This is a national advocacy organization with a goal of promoting continuous abstinence and improved quality of life for people in or seeking recovery. YPR members use their voices and lived experience to educate, advocate and collaborate on issues revolving around YPR’s goal. The YPR National Council currently represents 15 states. Each member is a leader in their local recovery community. The National Council has been tasked to guide the movement and create a national platform for strategic advocacy efforts to support the young people in recovery from across the United States. Allen Nyberg from Madison is the current chair (2013) of the Wisconsin chapter of YPR. He is glad to help people get involved. Allen can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org. See the national Young People in Recovery (YPR) website for information, stories and blog. Also, see the Wisconsin YPR Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/yprmadison/
Madison College Recovery Group. Started September 13, 2013, at Madison College, Truax Campus for students currently in or who have been in AODA treatment programs. Fridays at noon. Call or email John Boyne: 608-616-3418 or email@example.com
SEE ALSO: Support Groups and Referral, prepared by the Parent Addiction Network, that provides a list of support groups and referral services to help parents and families in the recovery journey.
A video/DVD from SAMHSA – Families are the front line: Preventing, Treating, and Recovering from Substance Use and Mental Disorders. It explores prevention, treatment, and recovery from substance abuse and mental health disorders within the context of the family. Examines factors in a strong family support environment and ways to educate families to provide support through recovery.
The Partnership at Drugfree.org includes information about your child’s recovery and tips for yourself. In particular, see the information and resources under Recover at Recover – Recovery is a New Beginning.
Question. How can I as a parent support my child’s recovery?
Answer: Talk with others, your counselor or other professionals. Go to support group meetings (see the Self-Care section on this website) and hear how other parents are supporting recovery – their child’s and their own. Read about recovery. Each recovery journey is different; as is each of our support strategies as parents and families. Recovery is everywhere. Check out the website, Faces and Voice of Recovery (url) to read stories and hope of recovery.
Shelter and Transitional Housing
For individuals in need of immediate shelter in Dane County, see the attached documents:
Also, see the Madison TransitionalHousing.org website
Research shows the important role of social factors in recovery outcomes. An important aspect of the social network is the addict’s living environment — the need for a stable, alcohol and drug-free living environment, often combined with involvement in 12-step mutual help groups (Polcin et al., J Psychoactive Drugs, 2010; 42(4):425-433).
Sober and Halfway Housing in Dane County (pdf) . This list of sober housing in Madison was prepared by the Parent Addiction Network, updated April 2016. Please help us keep it current. If you see additions or changes, please let us know: EMAIL us at Info@safercommunity.net Or, click on this link EMAIL Info. Thanks!
Another good resource is Tenant Resource Center, 1202 Williamson St., Suite 102, Madison PH: 608-257-0006.
The Tenant Resource Center is a nonprofit, membership organization that provides information and referrals, education about rental rights and responsibilities, and access to conflict resolution, including free housing counseling and a Housing Help Desk. The Help Desk is located in the Dane County Job Center on the North side of Madison to help with a wide range of housing-related issues. Walk-In: 1819 Aberg Avenue, Madison, WI 53704; 10am- 2 pm Monday-Friday Phone: (608) 242-7406
Things you can do to support your child’s recovery
(Adapted from Wisconsin Family Ties: Family Guide to Adolescent Substance Abuse Information and Services in Wisconsin, 2008, pg 31)
The following items are provided for adolescent children.
- Support involvement in relationships and activities that do not involve alcohol or other drugs.
- Refrain from using alcohol or other drugs in the home or around your loved one.
- Provide appropriate help in your child’s recovery, such as help with transportation. Refrain from enabling.
- Avoid family activities that conflict with key recovery activities.
- Recognize and praise positives in your child’s post-treatment adjustment.
- Participate in your own family recovery meetings and/or family therapy.
- Use “I statements” and not accusations. Say what you mean, but don’t say it mean.
HELPFUL TIP: Setting House Rules. Created by members of our Parent Addiction Network in response to parent questions.